Sunday, August 8, 2010

How Dave Changed My Life

My life and my marriage will never be the same...and the way it happened was really an accident. It occurred one day while I was on itunes checking out a few of the new tunes on the 2009 release Big Whiskey and the GrooGrux King by the Dave Matthews Band. One track title – You and Me – arrested my attention like no other.

It only took me a few seconds of listening before I was taken by the words that Dave was singing. Rich with sweet acoustic guitar, well placed tambourine and the amazing Dave Matthews signature strings, the South African poet sang straight to my heart:

We can always look back at what we did
All these memories of you and me baby
But right now it's you and me forever girl
And you know we could do better than anything that we did
You know that you and me, we could do anything

You and me together, we could do anything, Baby
You and me together yeah, yeah
Two of us together, we could do anything, baby [Full Lyrics]

The same heart that those words penetrated is a heart that is full of dreams and ideas. and desires. I want this planet and the people that I encounter on it to be better off because I am here. I have a heart to impact my world in a variety of ways. The way I raise my kids. The way I respect and honor people. The way I care for nobodies. The way I love people who are different than me. The way I learn how to give of myself. The way I take care of the planet. The way I treasure my wife. The way I love and live and engage in the everyday.

There are two things though that hold me back – doubt and laziness. As I sat however, and meditated on Dave’s words I was reminded of two other very important things.

Number 1: I am married to and get to share my life with an amazing woman (who also has dreams and ideas).

Number 2: Right now is the only moment that we are guaranteed.

Therefore, if Kristy and I have dreams, then today seems like a good day to get off of the sofa, get to God, allow him to calm our fears and follow our hearts.
We’ve been given time and life together….today….and we can do anything.

My soon to be daughter, Zoe, is going to know this song, as it is one of the biggest reasons that we are now 4 months into adopting our baby girl from Ethiopia. Adoption has been on our hearts for more than 7 years, but doubt, finances and laziness were keeping us on the sidelines. I’ve come to realize that whenever I’m sitting on the sidelines, it’s because I’m allowing my head to win the contest with my heart. But my life is most full when I allow my heart to win.

I love when my heart trumps my head. It is a beautiful thing.

So, what dreams are in your heart?

What is holding you back?

What words has God been speaking to you through music or art or books to encourage you to move? How will you respond?

And Kristy....I love that we are learning to love and live on this journey together. You and me. You are simply amazing.

And, Dave.....thanks.


Morris said...

Brian, I would like to think that I am a better person for having you in my life (hope that doesn't sound to weird) being able to learn from you & talk to you.
As far as a song goes, Newsboys "Born Again" has been really speaking to me. It has some really great lyrics. The video with lyrics is someplace on my FB page, if you would like to check it out. Again thanks for being you & putting up with my questions.

Bev said...

I'm with Morris...I'm thankful that I get to call you "friend". Since we discussed this song, I can hardly listen to it without getting a little teary...It inspires me - because YOU inspired me with this story - to get my own butt in gear to find my dreams (perhaps I need to establish new ones...maybe I need to dust off some old ones...we'll see)
It also leaves my heart feeling full of hope...hope for a laundry list of things for me & my boys...but also for you & Kristy and your beautiful little family. When I hear this song, I say a little prayer for all of you - especially Zoe...who will, undoubtedly, have an excellent taste in music...

Pi Man said...

Awesome that you're making a difference in such tangible ways Bro.

Me! said...

Amazing! I love when my heart trumps my head!!!!!!!! the heart wins!!!!!!!!!! Wow! I liked it! Thanks for sharing your heart!

Me! said...

Amazing! I love when my heart trumps my head!!!!!!!! the heart wins!!!!!!!!!! Wow! I liked it! Thanks for sharing your heart!